Posts Tagged ‘Wife’

Instant Relationships

Posted: October 6, 2014 in Motivation
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Instant relationships seem to be very common these days. The longing to be with someone or to say that you have someone pressures people into these kinds of relationships. Being a single woman in her 30’s can be quite challenging. We are at an age where if we don’t have children, we start to think of having children because of the proverbial “clock” is ticking. However, we also don’t want to settle down
with someone just because he may seem at first glance a great catch. Lately, I have encountered men
who want instant relationships. They seem to want relationships after the first or second date…seriously, they do. I would like to know what happened to the days where you met someone, you went out on a few dates and during the process you actually got to know a person. You had a chance to study their habits as well as actually fall in love with them. Actually, the most recent date I went on felt more like a job interview than anything but I am happy that it went the way it went. I was able to find out things about him that his “resume” didn’t tell me about like his possessiveness. Let’s just say that I can see why he’s been single for 8 years. I would like to get to know someone naturally and fall in love with them. I don’t want to be rushed through the process. I am not saying that it should take someone a month or 2 to say that you are exclusive with someone, but what I am saying is that a person shouldn’t expect for you to become exclusive after the first date! Learn the difference between being alone and lonely. It is truly a difference and being alone isn’t all bad. Especially if you are settling with someone who doesn’t know you and you don’t really know them. I am not saying that these relationships don’t work, some actually do. However, I know quite a few that are nightmares, they are rosy looking on the outside but dark and dreary on the inside. I enjoy the initial excitement of meeting someone new and in order for me to progress forward with a person I must see something beyond the initial meeting. I will not however commit to someone without getting to know them. Have fun getting to know me. Learn what quirks, figure out some things about me that may annoy you, learn my favorite things, find something in my life that you can gradually include yourself in. Trust, I will do the same for you. But life isn’t a movie or song, The movie or songs are inspire by life’s events but those life event’s usually took some months and years in the making, not 2 dates…lol! Enjoy the process of dating. Finding your life partner can be difficult but what is more difficult is having to end something with someone that you probably shouldn’t have been with in the first place. Slow down and enjoy the process! Your King or Queen are on their way. Get yourself right first in order to attract that person.

© Brandi Anderson

Submissive Wife

Posted: September 9, 2014 in Spiritual
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I will be the first to admit that the word “submission” is hard for some people to grasp, especially when it is pertaining to women and their role in a marriage. Submission does not mean being disrespected, being a doormat, a push-over or any other degrading characteristic. Being a submissive wife means that the women is willing to give herself completely, freely, and lovingly to her husband without feeling forced to. She is willing to have this man lead her, teach her and cover her the way a husband should. She trusts that he has given his life to Christ and by Christ being the head of his life, this man, her husband can be the head of her family under God in their household. When a man loves a woman as he should…as he loves himself and cares for her in that same fashion, he will find it easy to have a supportive and submissive wife. The wife is to respect her husband as the head, the leader and again when men encounter a woman who is strong and / or independent I will admit that this can be a challenge but even she will be submissive. It is all in how you love her and show her that you deserve the respect you seek from her. Marriage is a mutual respecting relationship. You must be equally yoked and have a relationship centered on God and what He desires from your marriage. Why? The design of marriage isn’t just to procreate, actually the design of marriage is to bring glory to God. The union of marriage signifies love personified, grace, mercy, faith is all needed in a successful Godly marriage. Dying to your flesh to become one! The man is to lead his wife through her spiritual walk and the woman is to encourage her husband and to complete him spiritually by assisting him with his work and his walk with Christ. Each marriage has a mission, a ministry to produce and if you are married to a man who has no God given mission then that marriage for a Godly woman will fail and if a Godly man with a vision marry’s a woman with no belief in his vision or in God, that marriage will fail. Below I have posted a few bible verses pertaining to a submissive wife but I will close my paragraph with a verse from Proverbs that I use for restoring my faith and affirming my thoughts when presented with difficult situations. I found it to also work for the idea of what a marriage should be. “By wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established; and by knowledge the rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasures.” Proverbs 24:3-4 In other words, both people should be in prayer, worship together, study together to gain the wisdom needed for marriage, the strength of God to be in them both and by doing those things He will impart knowledge to them about how to deal with things in a Godly manner. When two people truly have their eyes set on having a God centered marriage, the blessings He will give to them will be beautiful because that marriage is bringing glory to His name and all that see that marriage will have hope and see God in it.

Ephesians 5:22-33
22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing[a] her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”[b] 32This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

Colossians 3:18-19
18 Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. 19 Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.

© Brandi Anderson